Vivid dreams early pregnancy
Dreaming during pregnancy: what does it mean?
During pregnancy, dreams are more intense. A big change is underway, your body is transforming as well as your psyche.
When you're pregnant, you're changing at the same time as your baby is growing inside you. This is an intense period that has repercussions during your sleep . You remember your dreams better, and they are often more numerous during this period of your life. This is simply because you pay more attention to your body : first, you rest more often, you are more centered on yourself, listening to your feelings, then, your first thought when you wake up is no longer related to work but to your baby ("It's true! There's a baby in my belly"). This is the time to pay attention to your beautiful dreams as well as to nightmares: they all have important things to tell you!
Frequent dreams of pregnant women
The dream of premature birth .
"It can reveal that you are impatient to reach the end of the term . Nine months is a long time for some! If in a dream, the birth goes badly, you are probably worried about its progress or what may happen during your pregnancy. This is not premonitory. However, the dream alerts you: you are agitated, scattered. Refocus on your pregnancy and come back to the present moment, everything will come in its time."
A baby that dies.
"It is the reflection of YOUR inner baby. What is dying in you? Do you have difficulty projecting yourself as a mother? Of course, you are going to change profoundly, and this can be worrying, especially during a first pregnancy. Take time for yourself to accompany the emergence of the new woman in you. Also, bringing a child into the world means giving it life, but the idea of death is not far away either. This anxiety can be amplified in your dreams. Rest assured, this kind of nightmare is symbolic. Above all, it asks you to welcome your new state with confidence and not to make negative projections about the future."
Do you dream of a child?
"It is also about your inner child , your personal growth, your joy and spontaneity that come to remind you that you are like this, not just a serious adult. Observe how he behaves in dreams, if he is treated well, if he is joyful. This child can sometimes show you old problems that it is time to resolve. Questions about parenthood then appear."
Your other half leaves you because you are pregnant?
"All the elements of the dream are aspects of you. Your other half in the dream is a part of you, which betrays you, which neglects you. An example: if you compare yourself too much to others, you neglect yourself. Learn to love yourself , and this type of dream should disappear."
The repetition of pregnant dreams
Some dreams or nightmares do not let go of us. If you regularly have the same dream, it is because your inner world has an important message to deliver to you . Is it a beautiful dream? It comes to show you the moments when you are aligned with your deep nature. Is it a nightmare? It is because you perpetuate a behavior that harms you and that you repeat constantly. Interpret these dreams to change.
Childbirth, a miscarriage , her family, her mother, a baby, a child a few years old... So many recurring themes in the dreams of a future mother. You should know that pregnant or not, we always dream of ourselves in a more or less hidden way.
Are you giving birth? In psychoanalysis, birth is always associated with renewal, evolution, the death of a part of oneself. Yes, becoming a mother means growing up, maturing, changing status. This transformation, sometimes difficult and painful, can also be translated by dreams of very long, forceps, or even bloody births. The relationships that the future mother has with her family and parents, especially her mother, are at the heart of this evolution. Certain childhood problems can resurface (abandonment, lack of love, trauma, etc.).
Dreaming of babies and children is also symbolic. It is not most often about the one we carry in our belly but about the one (we also carry it in ourselves!) that we were. If we did not feel loved, valued in our childhood, we would like him to be… and to do better than us. Hence certain dreams of malformation which are to be deciphered as “lacks” that we would like not to transmit to him.
Lack of logic in dreams during pregnancy
"I am in the delivery room, surrounded by my whole family. I am not giving birth to a baby but to a turd... I am worried and surprised. For the other people present, everything seems natural." Sophie, 32, five months pregnant.
Dreams that make no sense, even the funniest ones, are also revealing. Some pregnant women dream that they are giving birth to a baby animal or an object. Don't panic, you are not likely to have a bedside lamp in your uterus, or a baby cat. This is a dysfunction in your way of seeing things. The animal represents your instinct , you may be too impulsive or have difficulty controlling certain behaviors. The object, on the other hand, is the symbol of an "emotional dryness", because it is usable above all. You do one thing, but without heart. Here is a good example: "I have to have a child very quickly, otherwise I will be too old." In this reasoning, it is not the heart that speaks, but rather the mind that is afraid of time passing. The baby is then above all "useful" for you.
Erotic dreams while pregnant
Having sexual dreams is normal, and your pregnancy hormones have something to do with it. So don't be surprised if you start to feel the urge during the night. If your partner is receptive, take advantage of it together! The connection with your body is strong. It needs to express itself, it reveals your femininity and sensuality. Pamper it, but don't overdo it. Some women focus excessively on themselves, and then more aberrant dreams may appear: cheating on your other half with your neighbor, for example. Erotic dreams often appear suddenly, with pregnancy reviving your sensuality that may have been put aside until then.
Having nightmares while pregnant
"I give birth - I don't know if it's a boy or a girl - and, without transition, I die of a morphine overdose. I see myself dead, I am devastated. I witness the scene where my husband thinks about the organization to put in place and comes home to tell the overexcited children: "The baby is here but mommy has left." My daughter-in-law, aged 17, reacts badly, my children, they don't realize and ask to see the baby. It's a dream that I have had several times, without ever knowing the sex of my child (in reality, I don't know it either). However, my pregnancy is going very well, without complications." Odile, 35, eight and a half months pregnant, mother of Victor, 6, and Maxime, 3.
Nightmares are common during pregnancy, and for good reason: the fears and anxieties related to motherhood follow you into your bed. Expecting a baby creates a huge upheaval, both physical and psychological : you go from one identity to another, from woman to mother. "Memories from your own childhood can resurface, some more or less traumatic" explains our expert Marielle Laheurte. There are also doubts that arise: "Will I be able to be a good mother to my child ?". Whatever the reason for your stress, nightmares are important because they show you what you have buried all these years. Welcome these bad dreams! If they appear, it is because there are certainly imbalances to readjust . The night brings counsel, and so do nightmares.
"Don't ignore your nightmares, or they will come back." Write them down when you wake up, having taken care to put a small notebook and a pen next to your bed beforehand. This way, you will memorize them more easily. To calm your anxieties:
- Pregnant, meditation before bed is beneficial.
- Visualize your entire delivery in a positive way. See in detail the happiness of holding your baby in your arms, of sharing this joy with your loved ones, wrap the baby in your tenderness.
- Revisit your nightmare by modifying it so that its ending is positive.
No, pregnancy dreams are not premonitions
Let's finally put an end to this misconception: dreams are not omens . Don't confuse reality with dreams. It is natural to feel anxious when you are about to dive into the unknown. And if you dream that you are giving birth to a monstrous baby, it may be that beyond the fear of disability, you fear that you will not be up to par... with your own mother. All dreams (even the most horrible ones) are perfectly "normal" and of course have no repercussions on the fetus . They allow you to externalize fears and release emotions that a future mother cannot always express.
Pregnancy dreams sometimes lead to many reflections . It is important to consider them.
Dreams during pregnancy: beware of interpretations!
A dream only makes sense in relation to the past and present history of the person telling it. So, there is no point in asking parents and friends to decipher it, only the dreamer has the answer . Your dreams belong to you. If two different people dream that a pink cow sings Poker Face by Lady Gaga to them, the different symbols will not have the same meaning. Since their lives, their daily lives, their concerns are not the same.
To try to understand the meaning, you can let your imagination run wild by freely associating images, ideas and words. You can also ask yourself what happened in the last forty-eight hours: "Did someone make a comment to me?", "What is my relationship with the person I dreamed about?", "Does this dream leave me happy or worried?". Keep in mind that it is impossible to decipher your dreams without knowing your story.
If they become too distressing, do not hesitate to talk about them with a psychologist.
